Ten Meters of Thinking: The ABC of Communication
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Success
is not a point.
Success
is a path.
I’m Irish,
and in the Celtic symbolism
there are many symbols that refer to a journey and a path.
One of them looks like this.
It says unity.
Everything is connected.
And it says eternity.
That no matter where you begin you’ll always comeback to the same place.
Today I’d like to talk to you about a path,
and some of the qualities along that path.
And I’m going to do this across ten meters of paper,
which I call ten meters of thinking.
Now, before you go into a deeper state of learning,
I’d like to tell you little bit about Irish logic.
Irish logic:
This here as you can clearly see is Patrick Murphy.
Patrick Murphy on Monday night,
went out and had ten whiskeys and a cola.
Now on Tuesday morning, he woke up with a terrible hangover.
So, on Tuesday night he had ten whiskeys and a Cola.
Wednesday morning, he wakes up with a terrible hangover.
So when Wednesday night he goes out and has ten Bacardies and a Cola.
Thursday morning waking up with a terrible hangover,
he says, “That’s it. No more Cola for me.”
(Laughter)
Absolutely correct.
Clearly, it’s Cola that is the problem.
It’s completely logical.
In fact you would have to say you need to be illogical to be Irish.
(Laughter)
Now, this of course is where
unfortunately many businesses are today.
We have to look beyond the obvious to find the root cause.
Dynamic Knowledge
And what I’m interested in is how science and other disciplines
has done so.
For example,
this here as you can clearly see is a butterfly.
And what science traditionally has done,
is that it has captured the butterfly, killed it, lots of blood,
(Laughter)
and has put the analysis in a static state.
Instead what science now is doing,
is it’s looking at the butterfly, as you can clearly see that’s a butterfly.
It’s now looking at the butterfly
in its environment within the context.
This is now called dynamic knowledge.
Dynamic knowledge, because science now realizes
that when we have Carbon,
when we have Hydrogen,
and when we have Oxygen
and we add these together,
something unique is created.
What is created here
is something that is not in Carbon, Hydrogen or Oxygen.
It only is created with the synergy of these.
And this is sugar.
Yet there’s no sugar in Carbon, Hydrogen or Oxygen.
A sweet spot is created through the synergies.
This as we all know means
that 1+1=?
Scientists in the room?
1+1=…
11.
Obviously.
The individuals working in unity, unity in diversity,
we’re still individuals keeping diversity,
creating expediential value.
1+1 no longer is synergistically meaning 2,
1+1 now, in today’s world, means 11.
What this means is that when we have communities,
communities that are connected and operating together in synergy,
something new is going on, there’s a new meaning.
This community comes from the Maori culture in New Zealand.
The Maori culture in New Zealand,
every period of time marks that period with the building of the boat.
Everybody in the village is responsible in the activity of building the boat.
Including the oldest person in the village,
whose task is to build the fire in the center of the village,
sit by that fire and remember why they’re building the boat.
We need to ask ourselves why?
Particularly, because I believe that our “Why?”
has been transported from within the walls of our society
to a zone that is unknown.
To a zone that now causes us to step beyond this
into a new trash old.
A new trash old that has new rules, new regulations, new opportunities.
It is a new adventure.
However I’m here to tell you good news.
Good news that the new rules are actually very old rules.
When we communicate,
we should not do this,
we should do this.
When we communicate,
it should be based in truth.
When we act, it needs to be based upon justice.
Justice and truth becomes the new operating principles.
Old principles in a new world.
Now, what you will realize is,
those great mathematicians in the audience will realize of course.
When you add this to this,
we get this.
This is the distinguishing factor today.
This is now the difference that will make the difference.
We have individuals
competing with different organizations.
This organization will fly this kite.
This organization will fly this kite.
All competing.
We however will fly this kite.
Old rules.
Us, someone else.
Do onto others as you would see done onto yourself.
The golden rule.
It amazes me how many business books these days
spent 300 pages telling us this.
Now, what’s interesting about this,
Quality of Relationships
is that I believe,
it is the quality of our relationships now that we need to focus on.
It is the quality of our relationships that is going to define what we deliver.
This is now what we focus on.
The Model
And very quickly I want to offer you a very simple model,
a model that I use in branding.
And it’s a model that you can use for brands businesses or being.
And it looks like this.
This here is an organization.
And this here is somebody else.
You could call it a customer.
The organization and the customer.
Now what happens is,
the organization first of all takes an action
towards the customer.
The action results in a belief
in the mind of the customer.
What the organization then does, is it communicates.
If the action is not in parallel with the communication,
then we have a negative belief.
In other words if we do something and say something else,
we don’t believe.
If however these are in parallel,
we have a positive belief.
Again, there’re many management books that spend 300 pages telling us this.
The interesting thing about this is the simplicity.
The simplicity of the A, B, C.
A comes first.
We do not communicate first, we act first.
Now, we’ve already learnt that new rules
means that our action needs to be just.
Our communication needs to be truthful.
And I can guarantee if our actions are just,
our communication truthful,
then we will form.
This is the goal of every organization.
ABC action orientated.
Now, for you advanced listeners.
You know who you are?
For you advanced listeners,
of course it’s not just an ABC, perhaps there’s a D.
Because, it shouldn’t be one-way communication,
it should actually be two-way communication as we all know.
And this then opens up into dialogue.
This however is not achievable unless we have this,
unless we have trust.
Do not think that you can do this,
we first need to form trust.
Learning
Action, ladies and gentlemen, this is all about action.
And the action is actually based on learning.
Learning by doing.
We act and we’re learning from that.
Let’s talk about learning.
This here is my dog in Ireland that I was growing up with,
as you can see.
And this here is the car that he was very fond of chasing
along the street that we were living in.
Until one day he was hit by a car.
Now, we went to the doctor to do that,
and surprisingly he was actually,
recovered very quickly with one of this things around his neck.
His bark got louder.
And when we took this off him, and he was let out again onto the street,
he learnt never to chase cars again on that street.
Instead, he chased them on this street.
(Laughter)
Learning requires reflection,
and reflection has to happen at a mature level.
And one of the things that can help with reflection,
is when we consider
that the context gives meaning.
This sequence makes sense.
It’s clearly making sense.
This is now different.
The context gives the meaning.
In order to rich a more mature reflection we need to step into a wider context.
And just so that we understand where we are today,
we need to go back to Darwin,
who talks about the survival of the fittest.
Where one is against the other.
It is locked in, it is the competition based model.
Unfortunately too much of our activities are based on this.
Darwin however only ever spoke about the survival of the fittest,
within a greater context of cooperation.
Our competition based model is excellent
once operating within a larger context of cooperation.
And the first step that we can take towards this,
is to involve others.
To consult with others in our activities.
To consult with others over what’s important.
So, to bring this back again to a very simple set of basis,
when we’re doing the ABC’s of communication,
it is all about starting with action.
We learn from our doing.
Remembering our dog, it needs to be based on reflection.
Our actions then we need to reflect upon.
And to have a wider more mature context,
we need to involve others by consulting with them.
This is a model of reflection. Learning by doing.
And this is a model with the consultation of a rich understanding.
This means very simply,
that when we want to move from A to B,
any point on time,
we move in A ARC.
We act, we reflect and we consult.
With this realization that we’re involved with others.
That we want to be part of others.
That in fact we’re interdependent.
It means that we as independent parts
need to become interdependent parts of an organic whole.
This becomes our operating mantra.
This is where we’re moving to.
And what this means is, that as I rerolled,
you can put this content in its most valuable place for you.
As I reroll, we can look and consider how learning by doing
through a process of acting, reflecting and consulting
creates an emergent value.
It creates a richer meaning.
It means that when we’re operating and reflecting,
it means that it based upon actions.
Actions within a greater context
that’s creating a richer meaning.
Conclusion
To do so means that the relationships we’re working with are more rich.
It means that we’re focusing on creating richer relationships.
And it means that what was a very .. timeless quality,
now becomes a timely manifestation.
Our truth plus justice creates trust.
That is the difference that will now make the difference.
It will help us navigates beyond the walls of our current society.
It will help us remember a different “Why?”.
It will help us act in a greater sense of unity and diversity,
that will create expediential value.
All of which reminds us of the journey that we’re on.
A path where our actions,
our beliefs,
and our communication
become key components along a path.
A path which we operate in ARCs.
We act, we reflect, we consult.
A path of ARCs.
And to go beyond the culture of context means that at the heart of this,
our actions are just.
Our beliefs are based on trust.
And our communication is based on truth.
Which I’ll guarantee
will create a compiling why
and remind us that success is not a point,
success is a path.
Thank you very much.
⚡ Learning goals
- Explain the ABC model: action creates beliefs and guides communication.
- Describe how truth, justice, and trust shape effective relationships.
- Use zero conditionals and modals to express cause–effect and advice.
✨ Key language
- start with action “Start with action, then communicate.”
- create trust “Truth and justice create trust.”
- consult with others “Consult with others to gain perspective.”
⚙️ Rules & Grammar — 4 Structures
1️⃣ Present simple for general truths
Rule: Use the present simple to state principles and general facts.
Examples: Success is a path.; Truth creates trust.; Actions define beliefs.
Common pitfall + fix: Avoid mixing tenses unnecessarily — keep general truths in the present simple.
Which sentence states a general truth?
Tip: General truths use the present simple.
Fill with the best answer: Success ___ a path.
Tip: Be verb in present simple for general statements.
2️⃣ Modal verbs for advice/obligation
Rule: Use should/need to/can to give advice, obligation or possibility.
Examples: We should act first.; Communication needs to be truthful.; We can consult others.
Common pitfall + fix: Avoid mixing tenses unnecessarily — keep general truths in the present simple.
Choose the best advice sentence.
Tip: Advice commonly uses ‘should’.
Fill with the best answer: Our actions ___ be just.
Tip: Use ‘should’ for recommended behavior.
3️⃣ Zero conditional for cause–effect
Rule: Use the zero conditional to describe general cause–effect (If + present, present).
Examples: If action matches communication, we build belief.; If we consult, we learn.; If truth meets justice, we create trust.
Common pitfall + fix: Avoid mixing tenses unnecessarily — keep general truths in the present simple.
Pick the zero conditional.
Tip: Zero conditional uses present + present.
Fill with the best answer: If we ___, we learn.
Tip: Bare verb in present after ‘we’.
4️⃣ Imperatives for guidance
Rule: Use the imperative to give rules or direct instructions.
Examples: Start with action.; Build trust before dialogue.; Consult with others.
Common pitfall + fix: Avoid mixing tenses unnecessarily — keep general truths in the present simple.
Which sentence is an imperative?
Tip: Imperatives use the base verb without a subject.
Fill with the best answer: ___ with others to gain perspective.
Tip: Imperatives use the base form.
✍️ Vocabulary
synergy
Meaning: combined power that is greater than the parts
Synonyms: harmony, collaboration, teamwork
Chunk/Idiom: create synergy
Example: The teams combined to create real synergy.
Morphology: noun
Self-practice: Combine two ideas and explain the benefit
belief
Meaning: what someone thinks is true
Synonyms: conviction, opinion, view
Chunk/Idiom: hold a belief
Example: Actions shape the customer’s belief.
Morphology: noun
Self-practice: Write one belief your clients may have
cooperation
Meaning: working together for a shared goal
Synonyms: collaboration, partnership, teamwork
Chunk/Idiom: in close cooperation
Example: Competition works within a context of cooperation.
Morphology: noun
Self-practice: List two ways to increase cooperation
justice
Meaning: fair and right behavior
Synonyms: fairness, equity, righteousness
Chunk/Idiom: act with justice
Example: Actions must be based upon justice.
Morphology: noun
Self-practice: Rewrite a rule to make it just
trust
Meaning: confidence in someone or something
Synonyms: confidence, faith, reliance
Chunk/Idiom: build trust
Example: Truth and justice together create trust.
Morphology: noun/verb
Self-practice: Write one action that builds trust
consultation
Meaning: asking others for their views
Synonyms: discussion, advisory, counsel
Chunk/Idiom: in consultation with
Example: We act, reflect, and consult through dialogue.
Morphology: noun
Self-practice: Note who you will consult next time
☁️ Examples (+ audio)
Success is not a point; success is a path. Action comes before communication in the ABC model. Truth and justice together create trust. We act, reflect, and consult to learn by doing.
✏️ Exercises
Grammar
Action comes before communication in the ABC model.
Tip: A comes first: act before you communicate.
Which modal best gives advice here?
Tip: Use ‘should’ for recommended actions.
Fill with the best answer: If action ___ communication, we build belief.
Tip: Zero conditional uses present + present.
Fill with the best answer: ___ with others to widen context.
Tip: Imperatives use base form without subject.
Vocabulary & Comprehension
What creates trust according to the talk?
Tip: Trust is built by truth plus justice.
In this talk, 1+1 suggests ___
Tip: Synergy creates value beyond parts.
Fill with the best answer: Quality of our ___ defines what we deliver.
Tip: Key noun from the talk.
Fill with the best answer: We act, reflect, and ___ to learn by doing.
Tip: Three-step ARC model.
✅ Guided practice
Mini-dialogue:
A: We acted, but the outcome feels off.
B: Then check if our communication matches the action.
A: Good point. If they align, people believe.
Why this matters:
Clear alignment between action and communication shapes beliefs. When truth meets justice, trust grows. Trust enables dialogue and better results.
Verb & Adjective Pack:
align — Align actions with words.
consult — Consult the team before deciding.
reflect — Reflect after each action.
just — Make a just decision.
truthful — Be truthful in your message.
Try & compare:
Fill with the best answer: Our action ___ our message.
Tip: Think zero conditional: if A ___ B, then C.
Self-correction: Fix the sentence: Start with the communication first.
Tip: In the ABC, action comes first.
Practice aloud: Listen, repeat, then type the sentence.
Truth and justice create trust.
Tip: Focus on word order: subject + verb + object.